Everyday I fell in love for the first time

50 First Date

I concluded the existence of three kinds of men; man who finds woman interesting, man who falls for the first sight of woman's beauty and a man who has been watching and learning.

These kinds of men could also be the reason of date invitation. However, I believe for every reason of action there is purpose. For example, if a man is interested in you, then the man has similar interest things as you or you have done something to amaze him. So his purpose is to dig deeper, he seeks the truth. The second is a man who falls for the first sight of women’s beauty. The purpose of this kind of man sometime can lead into different purpose after his first purpose. The first purpose can only be about flirting but can lead into falling in love as it goes on. Or the man just looking for some company with no attachment, that they both will forget as if they have never met. The last is the kind of man who already has a lot of history with the girl of his dream. This man has been watching and learning about the woman, therefore the man had gone through long process to fall in love with her. Usually this kind of man needs time to finally decide to ask the woman on date. Everything about this kind of man requires time. This kind of man is sure of his feeling, so his reason and purpose are only one. The reason is he loves her, and his purpose is to love her.

The “50 First of Dates” taught me love requires sincerity. Sincerity requires sacrifice, process, learning and patience. The man in the movie, Henry Roth is just a typical playboy who seeks women’s attention. With his romantic dates of rock climbing, scuba diving, cliff diving, back rub, slow dance, and sex, he captures female’s attention and obsession easily. Nevertheless, he appeared and disappeared as he wishes. He only has one purpose in approaching girl, which is one-night stand with no commitment and attachment. That’s the reason why he never invites local girl on a date, he attracts tourists who only stay for vacation. Until he met a local girl at a café named Lucy.

Judging this girl from her appearance, she is simple, with no make up on she appears beautiful and cute naturally, friendly, lovable and kind. She wears a simple pink shirt and let her wavy curly blond hair down. The way she friendly smiled to greet and complimented the waitress’s hair, proven of how kind-hearted she is. If I were a man, I would definitely have fallen for her beauty also. Judging a person from their appearance is never wrong, because I believe in first impression. If one able to appear impressively therefore creates people’s desire to judge you more in experience, live, and character. Therefore, despite being beautiful and handsome, it is important for either men or women to be fully groomed, dressed and smells good in any circumstances. Falling for the first sight is normal because first impression really does exist. Maybe that’s the reason behind; falling in love at first sight.

This is Henry Roth’s expression for the first time seeing Lucy;

Unlike other women Henry Roth had impressed, he left fish scent impression on Lucy. He answered Lucy guess of him being an architect with “I am not. I’m in fish.” As a marine veterinarian, he left Lucy the impression of “Oh, that’s where the smell is coming from.” But not in disgusting or insulting way most women would do, instead she gave the impression with a wide smile. It was crucial of Henry Roth to smell like a fish on the moment he decided to confront his crush, because of how immediately he took the lemon in his water and rubbed on his hand. The fish scent was not of what Henry Roth had planned. However Lucy gained her interest for him naturally “I love that smell”. Lucy’s father and brother are fishermen who go out to sea for months, and when they are back she hugged their fish scent.

“And they smell just like your hands. It’s the best smell in the world.”

Sea Lions, Dolphin, and Walrus large Arctic mammals became Henry Roth’s topic of conversation with Lucy. But hey, Henry Roth had the chance to be himself. For all the women Henry Roth had taken to a date, he never told the truth of what he really is. Henry Roth uses the same tricks to impress women. With Lucy, no tricks just flow. She laughed so wide and loud which mesmerized Henry Roth,

“I like your laugh.”

“I like you making me laugh.”

I googled and based on www.mamiverse.com , Lucy’s laugh was a typical spontaneous and genuine. Meaning she was significantly comfortable and she believed what she heard or seen are truly hilarious. This kind of person never holds back emotions and doesn’t have the need to fake things either. I’m the kind of person who is easily made to laugh. Consider Lucy’s laugh to mine, I laugh just about everything the way she was. However, I always laugh with my mouth wide open and release a man voice. Maybe that’s the reason why no man has ever said,

“I like your laugh” to me, Hahaha.

Time goes by so fast when you are having fun. Henry Roth’s attempt to approach Lucy went from breakfast till lunch, which irritated the waitress she had to shoo them,

“I hate to break this up, but we’re setting up for lunch.”

 The polite extrusion from the waitress didn’t break up anything. Their good bye came with another breakfast invitation from Lucy.

“I wish I could make it…, … but, yes I will be there.” 

Ah, another Henry Roth’s humor! Which actually made Lucy laughed? This girl really does laugh about just everything. Normally, any girls would think that as a failed-attempt of a guy who ran out of option and idea. Not to sound impudent but I consider myself as Lucy, hehehe.

“… I had a great time.” Henry Smirked with his hands tucked to his pocket. They shook hands and Lucy sniffed Henry Roth’s hand.

“One for the road. Hmm, it is fishy.”

Seriously never seen or heard girl who loves fish scent and wished to sniff it. Argh, how lucky Henry Roth is!

Both said their “Aloha,” but once they thought they are not being seen by each other, both said the same exact word.

“Oh my god”

“Oh my goodness,”

They danced as if no one business. Lucy’s dance was cute whether it was hula dance or not, her hands swayed and shook while her head and body moved following her hands’ rhythm. As for me, I know that feeling when you dance while no one is looking. If you made girls dance goofily, you have successfully impressed and excited her. Lucy was excited for the next breakfast with Henry Roth and trusts me she will not stop smiling for a moment. As for boys, I do not know the reason for them to dance goofily when no one is looking. But come on Henry Roth, could you have danced funnier with your pointy finger pointed up? Haha.

Unexpectedly, they spotted each other dancing so “Oh shit.”

As Henry Roth rushed into his car,

“I had a bee on me, it was a big one.”

Cliques huh Henry Roth? But Lucy responded with a smiling laugh, “Alright…”

The twos are looking forward to what they think will be the start of something wonderful, but hey… for what I have learned sometime things do not turn out the way we wanted. What we thought we understand might be the opposite.  As a human being, we must be prepared of what to come. Because the truth sometime can’t be accepted, therefore requires sacrifice if we decided to make acceptance. Have you ever made sacrifice for someone? And you think your sacrifice is worth thousand than the reality you have to face?

Henry Roth will have to make unimaginably big sacrifice to accept Lucy. What he discovered the next day about Lucy obligates him to make a decision. Lucy suffers from Goldfield Syndrome of short-term memory lost after a car accident with her father. Lucy is unable to retain any new information because she will forget everything the next day she wakes up. The only thing she remembers is what happened before the accident. Poor Lucy had been doing the similar thing for over a year, reading the same newspaper, having breakfast at the diner, and everyday would be just as same. Henry Roth always wants the girls who had fallen for him to forget him, now he doesn’t want to be forgotten.

What kind of man would want to continue to approach the kind of woman as Lucy? His effort requires twice harder, because the next day she’ll have no memory. However for someone as Henry Roth who always wants to have fun with girls with no attachment, he went on with his effort. For the passed days, he approached Lucy, as it was their first meeting. There is the day when he pretended he was unable to read so he cried loudly at the diner because he can’t order off from the menu. For me this was sweet and funny at the same time, because he was willing to be embarrassed by all the customers. Lucy then invited him to sit with her and taught him how to read, which she already knew that was just Henry Roth’s way of flirting her. However for days Henry Roth been putting effort with different kind of ways to approach Lucy, she changed into much happier person. Even though the next day she will not have memory of Henry Roth, but her feeling of falling in love for Henry Roth remains.

Henry Roth accepted Lucy and made sacrifice. As for Lucy’s family and Henry Roth, they are afraid of one day she might wakes up and look in the mirror and notices she aged 10 years overnight. Henry Roth accepted Lucy by not giving up on her; he tried the option of making a tape of all things Lucy had forgotten and showed it to her each morning. Henry Roth made a happy family possible for Lucy, each day as if they fall in love for the first time. Therefore, I believe love requires sacrifice. The sacrifice you made is a proof of your love. Someone who is willing to make sacrifice for you, are worth of love.

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